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Not Your Mother's Marriage

Relationship tips from a couples therapy specialist


Hello there and welcome to my blog, Not Your Mother's Marriage.  I'm thrilled to have you here
and hope you will find the information I post beneficial for yourself as well as your relationship.
I'd like to take a quick moment to introduce myself and the vision behind this blog.  Thank you
so much for your interest. I truly look forward to connecting with you through this material.



Preparing Your Marriage for the Journey of Infertility

You’ve followed the prescribed path…first comes love…then marriage…now you’re working on filling that baby carriage and my, has it taken longer than you expected.  Maybe you thought it was stress or diet or timing.  Maybe you read a blog, tried different positions, stood on your head for five minutes after doing the deed.  But after all the old wives tales you sought professional help.  Hoping for best case scenario, but being smacked in the face with infertility.  What now?  Now you equip, empower, and strengthen your marriage.  Find out how inside.


Battle of the Libidos

They say opposites attract, which in my experience, rings true in most relationships.  Oftentimes we pick partners that, by their very nature, compliment who we are as individuals.  Extroverts date introverts.  Early risers date late nighters.  However, that complimentary nature can be more a thorn in the side than a bonus when sex drive is the difference being examined.  A very common theme tackled in couples therapy is what I like to call the battle of the libidos.  One partner’s sex drive is through the roof while the other’s is barely above sea level.  Inevitably, and understandably, this is bound to cause conflict in the relationship. 

Wife's Guide to Handling a Horny Husband

With all the talk about the pink pill, it is clear women are looking for an intervention, a new way
to keep up with or at the very least handle the high libidos of their husbands.  Well wives, I have
heard your cry and am here to deliver an alternative.  Read on for some practical tips and, most
importantly, a perspective shift sure to deliver you from merely being a 'dutiful' wife and allow you
to step into the role you truly deserve as a...

Husband's Guide to Getting Laid

Husbands all across the world in all kinds of marriages have something in common:  they want 
to get lucky with their wives more often.  Well husbands, as a wife and marriage therapist, I am
here to offer you a few pieces of advice for you to consider on your journey to getting laid.



Let's Talk About Sex

Caution:  Short term side effects of reading this article may include sweaty palms, racing heart,
redness in the face, and uncomfortable conversations with your significant other.  Long term side
effects if applied correctly will likely result in improved connection, increased frequency of intimacy,
a better sex life, and overall a more desirable relationship. 


The Vacancy Factor

Nothing's worse than that sinking feeling of knowing it's just too little, too late, especially
in relationships.  But it happens, and on not such a rare occasion.  So many people have
experienced this emotion that when JoJo released a song with this title back in 2006 the
lyrics resonated enough for the single to hit platinum.  While I'm not about to belt out a
ballad leaving you wishing you'd never asked, I do want to let you in on a little secret.



Hot Date

It's true what they say, passion dies off after marriage.  It's a sad fact of life.  Gone are the days
of excitement and desire.  Not that you have to be miserable in holy matrimony, but surely you're
not getting all dolled up for Friday night.  Or are you?  Just because the natural course of the 
relationship will ebb and flow doesn't mean you can't take control and intentionally pump your
marriage full of spice.  If you're ready to take hold of the reigns, to revitalize your marriage, then
this article was written just for you.  Read on for the dos and don'ts of dating your spouse.


Couples Counseling

Fighting Fair

Let's face it, no relationship is immune to conflict.  Whether your relationship is full of love or oozing with hate, these tips can definitely improve the way you and your partner overcome discord as a couple.  Beyond the typical "share your feelings", these clinical strategies will demonstrate to your partner you're serious about changing and prove the two of you can overcome difficulties together.  If you're tired of having the same arguments over and over with no resolve, it's time to try a new approach.

Intimacy Counseling

 The Roommate Epidemic

You've been together for years and know each other all too well.  You've settled into a routine.  Life 
has become predictable.  You know you have a lot to be grateful for, but you can't help but wonder
if this is really all marriage has to offer.  What happened to the excitement, the passion?  Where did 
spontaneity run off to?  You guess this is normal, but does it have to be your normal?


Private Couple's Retreat

There comes a time in every relationship that a vacation just won’t do.  Sure, the two of you are in desperate need of a getaway, but something deep within urges for more than just sand, sun, and fun.  While you could both use some rejuvenation, so too could your relationship.  If this resonates with you, then you have come to the right place at just the right time.

Marriage Counseling

Marriage Revolution

As with everything, the status quo for marriage has changed over the course of time.  What
was once the norm is now considered absurdity.  Couples getting married in today's society
have a much different perspective on commitment.  But is it for the best?  If we want our
marriages to succeed, if we want that 'happily ever after', we must be willing to intentionally 
create it.  Passionate, desired marriages are possible, even for the most disconnected couple.


Marriage Therapy

Daydreaming Divorce

It's midnight.You just had another blowout and you're both fuming.  An ultimatum was given and
divorce was threatened.  Now, with tears still in your eyes, you're scouring the internet, looking
for any sign hope still exists.  Yes, you're considering divorce, but have you considered couples
therapy?  This short read might be just the antidote to the demise of a relationship full of possibilities.

Relationship TherapyTop Five Relationship Fails

So you want a passionate, desired relationship.  But are your very own behaviors preventing you from 
enjoying that ideal union?  Let's look at five patterns not uncommon in today's society that are sure
to kill the passion and suck the desire right out of your marriage.  If you realize you too have fallen
victim to these unhealthy norms, fear not, fixing the issues may be easier than you think.


The Ghost of Lovers Past

Oh love.  A story old as time.  Funny how one simple little word can immediately conjure visions of fairy tales and romance.  Love brings with it a sense of hope, newness, and stability.  It takes us to a place of butterflies and rainbows, sunshine and good hair.  A similarly ancient and profound story is that of love’s evil twin, heartbreak.  What a stark contrast between those two concepts.  Opposite sides of the same coin.  One is not possible without the other and yet having one leaves us vulnerable to the other.  Both equally powerful and life changing.  Today we’re going to focus on the darker of the two.  Today we’re going to talk about surprising ways your relationship can affect you years after the first tinge of heartbreak is felt.

The truth about "Becky with the good hair"

Unless you’ve been living under a rock or are otherwise inclined to avoid celebrity gossip at all costs, I’m sure by now you’ve heard the uproar about Becky.  Becky, Becky, Becky.  In some ways our very own modern-day Marsha.  Social sites are aglow with speculation and the centuries’ old meaning of this Becky character and who she represents in today’s society.  For the purposes of this article, we’re going to stick with the basic relational conceptualization of Becky.